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Considering the Acceptance and Commitment Framework for Neurodivergent-Affirming Support
A gentle starting point for exploring your authentic self after identifying as neurodivergent. Identifying neurodivergence later in life can feel like…
Aug 31
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Mark H. Durgee
Everyone’s not “A Little Autistic”
8 Reasons why the mindset is misleading and harmful to everyone. While it makes me cringe every time I experience it, I also recognize that, for the…
Aug 24
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Mark H. Durgee
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Adult Neurodivergent Diagnosis: Shame and Gatekeeping
How stigma and barriers keep self-identified neurodivergent adults from the support they deserve. This post explores the challenges of adult…
Aug 12
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Mark H. Durgee
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Childhood Trauma, Gender, and Feminist Erasure
The quiet weight I no longer choose to carry. This post may not follow the same path as my usual trauma-informed unmasking content, but it’s deeply…
Aug 5
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Mark H. Durgee
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July 2025
Practical Unmasking: What to Wear
How some black v-neck t-shirts helped me unmask. During the pandemic, between family meetups, therapy sessions, and relentless heat, I started doing…
Jul 28
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Mark H. Durgee
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Practical Unmasking: Helping as Hiding
How fawning, empathy, and loyalty can become survival strategies that hurt. When you’re an undiagnosed neurodivergent kid, especially one who’s also gay…
Jul 20
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Mark H. Durgee
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Unmasking, Intersectionality, and the Cost of Being Seen
When Survival Demands Masking and Authenticity Feels Out of Reach. In this post, I share parts of my own story alongside the lived experience of a dear…
Jul 13
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Mark H. Durgee
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Practical Unmasking: Truth and Deception
For late-diagnosed autistic adults reckoning with masking, truth, and the shame of being misunderstood. When I first started to unmask, it didn’t feel…
Jul 6
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Mark H. Durgee
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June 2025
Practical Unmasking: Birthdays
For me, birthdays have often been times when masking feels especially intense. Turning 50 made that even clearer. I spent months reflecting on what this…
Jun 29
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Mark H. Durgee
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Practical Unmasking: Productivity
Routine, Rhythm, and the Push–Pull of Change. Masking helped me survive but it also made me believe I was lazy, broken, and unreliable. This post is…
Jun 22
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Mark H. Durgee
Everybody Masks
We all learn to hide parts of ourselves to feel safe or accepted but at what cost? This post explores the hidden pressures to perform, blend in, and…
Jun 8
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Mark H. Durgee
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Uncredited: I’m no Flake
Two of two in a series. If you’ve ever carried shame for struggling in systems that weren’t built for your brain, this series is for you. It’s about the…
Jun 1
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Mark H. Durgee
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